Friday, January 29, 2010

Where there's a will...



Some children are tough nuts to crack when it comes to discipline and boundaries

Among the myriad books I have read about parenting, there are not very many that touch on the subject of strong-willed children.
Most books make the assumption that their way of discipline and child-rearing is going to work for every child, but the fact is that some kids are tougher to raise than others.
I count myself among the lucky ones who have a child who listens (most of the time) and understands the rules and boundaries in our house.
She knows when she is naughty and her emotional intelligence is developed enough for her to know when she has upset another person and, in turn, she shows remorse, regret and an apology follows (without having to force her to say sorry).
For example, last week she hopped in the bath and while my back was turned she promptly tipped the entire bottle of bubble bath into the tub.
I was not amused. After stern words from me and a few tears from her, she spent the next half an hour very quiet, eventually coming up to me and saying “I’m sorry, Mummy, I won’t do that again” followed by a great big hug.
This sort of scenario is not so easy for some parents.
Wilfulness is built into the nature of many children. It’s a part of their emotional and intellectual being and not something they learn.
What separates wilful children from those who are not is how they manage not getting what they want.

Friday, January 22, 2010

Prevention is better than cure



Immunisations are an important, and essential, part of childhood

Irecently learnt of a case of a family with five children who all endured a horrific bout of whooping cough.
The parents did not believe in immunisation, and subsequently the entire family, including a child under the age of two, were hospitalised with this disease.
Whooping cough is serious and if a child is infected, they are more likely to develop pneumonia. A severe case of whooping cough or pneumonia could result in brain damage or death.
So what can the rest of us learn from this family’s experience?
That although there may be tears and fears associated with injections, we should first, and foremost, protect our children against disease.
Immunisation is the safest and most effective way of giving this protection and if enough people in the community are immunised, the infection can no longer be spread from person to person and the disease dies out altogether.
This is how smallpox was eliminated from the world and polio has disappeared from many countries.

Friday, January 15, 2010

Start school in a positive way



First day jitters can hit all of us when we start a new job, join a class or do public speaking, but for children starting school it can be especially nerve-wracking

It’s an exciting time for many families across Far North Queensland as their children prepare for the first day of school.
While my daughter has another year to go before reaching this milestone, I am certainly familiar with the separation anxiety that exists with some children.
They may be just as excited as you are about packing their new school bag with books and pencils, and trying on their new school uniform, but when the day finally arrives, the thought of being left there by Mum and Dad is somewhat frightening.
Here are some great tips to help you and your child cope with any anxiety on the big day.

Resolve to put the family first this year



Here are a set of resolutions that you’ll want to keep year after year

So you’ve indulged in one too many rum balls, puddings, or sugar-coated peanuts?
And New Year’s Eve has come and you are ready to start afresh.
This is probably the one time of the year when parents actually think of themselves and say “I resolve to quit smoking, get fit or get out of debt”, but on the top of almost everyone’s list is “I resolve to spend more time with family”.
But this is sometimes harder said than done.
The saying “time is money” really does ring true for a lot of people since the global economic crisis, and every moment working counts towards higher living costs and rate rises.
However, the time spent with family may not be hours on end, but it can be quality time if you just put a bit of thought into it, leave your stress at the door and give your full attention to your child.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

A year in reflection




Nothing prepared her for 2009, but this year is looking a lot brighter


As a new year begins, I thought I’d tell my readers a story of loss, grief, sacrifice, hope, joy and love.
It’s a story of a woman not unlike my readers - a woman who spent most of her twenties enjoying life, travelling and working.
By the time her biological clock started ticking just before she turned 30, she was happily married and deep into domestic bliss, paying a mortgage and spending more time at home. The next most obvious step was to have children.
Within three months of trying to conceive, she had fallen pregnant, and nine months later had a baby girl. The pregnancy was a little rocky, but the birth went smoothly and she realised that becoming a mother was her greatest achievement in life.
She loved every minute of motherhood, from changing nappies, to making pureed food to rocking her daughter to sleep in the midnight hours.
It wasn’t easy, and she faced many challenges, but her mother’s instincts and absolute devotion to her child meant that she could always smile at the end of the day, and appreciate the young family that now surrounded her.
A few months before her daughter’s second birthday, she and her husband decided it was time to try for another baby.